Women and Abuse : Know The facts

Let’s discuss an idea which is widely spoken.

Domestic violence has been a primary topic for decades.

However, the first thing which must be understood about this issue is simply that:

it’s not a common problem.

Social standards prohibit men from displaying violence against women.

Therefore, the overall frequency is statistically minimal.

2) Secondly, during actual cases of abuse, many people examine the issue from a specific mentality. Upon which, they draw incorrect conclusions in their attempts to search for answers.

They describe an abusive husband as a “controlling & domineering man”.

When in truth, over 80% of all domestic violence cases can be attributed to alcoholism. (which includes drug addiction, and similar illnesses).

Basically, those men who commit domestic violence tend to be problematic, beyond their control. I am certainly not condoning their behavior. But, it’s not due to any beliefs against women. In fact, this type of man usually tends to be unfriendly toward everyone. And, often, he has mental troubles, as well. Basically, such individuals generally do not behave normally. Interestingly, a woman who abuses her husband is usually quite average. And she usually acts perfectly nice toward her friends. Probably, most male readers have experienced this, sometime during the course of their lives. He’s dating a girl who’s generally quite friendly toward others. And yet, the only person whom she abuses is: the man she loves. Psychologists have recognized this behavior as an indirect sign of POSITIVE trust for the opposite sex. Believe it or not, she actually admires his ability to endure such punishment from her. And, women seek these protective qualities in men.

2b) In contrast, an abusive boyfriend exhibits the same behavior against everyone, not just his partner.

3) When examining abuse from a conventional standpoint, some 68% of all abused partners are male. While only 32% are female. This does not include psychological or mental abuse, which could be argued as severely worse than that which we are most familiar with. And I believe, the majority of women are actually guilty of this behavior. The reason is because she searches for ways to discover his weaknesses. For example: perhaps, she tries to make him jealous. But, when that doesn’t work, she then gives him the silent treatment. And, when that doesn’t prove effective, she might use her friends to bully him. Then finally, she’ll begin speaking toward him with a sharp tone of voice. And, B-I-N-G-O, that’s his weak-spot. But, in any case, this cannot be measured by statistics. Therefore, “psychological” abuse will not be included in this essay. Rather instead, we will focus upon “conventional” examples.

4) Anyway, it’s rather bold to claim that higher cases of spousal abuse is committed by women, rather than men. However, one reason is because men pay a heavy legal consequence, if he strikes his spouse. We hear of cases when husbands receive a prison sentence, just for hitting his wife. Even if it’s completely painless for her, the legal repercussions are quite severe. In fact, she can simply accuse her partner, and the police are required to arrest the male.

5) Now, regarding the tragedy of Domestic Violence against women: We are all deeply opposed to any such brutality. This fact must be made perfectly clear.

6) MEGA MEGA) Interestingly though, Women’s Shelters refuse to associate themselves with extremist groups. Domestic-Violence Clinics certainly realize that the “Feminists” merely use this issue to further their own propaganda.

7) Many decades ago, studies still determined that slightly over half of all physically abused spouses were men. Ironically, many Men’s Activists are surprised to learn that the numbers were nearly even. We find it highly unlikely to think that comparable numbers of husbands were physically abusing their wives. We would have believed the figure to be substantially low. It’s simply unacceptable for a man to bring harm upon a woman. But, as I’ve stated before, these studies didn’t account for factors such as mental illness or alcohol consumption. In any case, this was only meant to include cases of physical abuse with a high level of severity.

8) Now, we will not deceive you: The numbers of males who inflict extreme damage is always higher. We remain honest with that fact. It’s comparable to 50 school girls who spy on boys, while he’s taking a shower. Whereas, only one boy spies upon the girls. But, he equips himself with an expensive video camera and uploads the entire file. With that said: We’re aware that, a male is sometimes capable of doing more damage.

9) One factor not considered was the indirect forms of mistreatment frequently inflicted upon men. For example: You’re girlfriend probably does many things which are somewhat abusive. Perhaps, she twists your arm. Or, she bends your finger back, further than it should go. Or, she pinches your skin until it becomes beet red. Obviously, these are not considered important examples of physical abuse. But, it’s certainly worth mentioning.

10) Let’s review a darker side to the issue. In the early 1980’s, some studies suggested that 58% of abused partners were men. And these abused males became the subject of ridicule by the media. In other words: people actually started making-fun-of those men who were victims of beatings, at the hands of their wives.

11) Now, let’s observe this entire issue from a psychological angle: We hear a lot pertaining to ‘domestic violence’. But, let’s face the truth; most women would like to believe that it’s a serious problem. It leads to wonder why these issues must exist. There’s a forgotten part of history when Women’s Magazines attempted to claim that nearly all relationships were affected by physical violence. Additionally, these magazines would give outlandish statistics regarding every other possible issue. But nowadays, you’ll notice that the figures are mixed quite nicely, in order to appear realistic. For example: We often see numbers which resemble a “multiple-choice” quiz. The findings read as follows: 36%, 23%, 42%, 19%, 56%, and so on. You rarely see simple sequences which read: 20%, 30%, 30%, 20%, etc.

12) Interestingly, extremist groups claim that any man who becomes intimate with his wife, is committing abuse. Why then don’t they ever list these types of extreme statistics? The reason is because: nobody takes those high-end statistics seriously.

13) Now, ask yourself: why is it necessary to create these issues in the first place? It has everything to do with typical “human thinking”. Most women realize the advantages which come along with these ideas. Basically, if she can prove such problems are serious, it will give an overall element of ‘control’ to her. In a sense, most people throughout this world try to prove themselves to be correct. Therefore, not surprisingly, numerous issues are being used as a device, in order to ‘bully’ others into agreement.

14) Now, every side claims they’re the victims of ‘abuse’. And, of course, talk is cheap. But it doesn’t require much searching to find evidence which substantiates my claims. You can simply turn-on the television for a few minutes, and witness an abusive atmosphere which targets against men.

14b) Or, if you google search the expression, “Girls are smarter than boys”, you will quickly be smothered in unpleasant forums where adolescent girls are being taught to insult boys in every way possible.

14c) If you read through the pages of virtually any magazine, they all create an environment which treats men harshly. Even if there’s No visible favoritism for women, they still find clever ways to alienate the male readers. This is evident in virtually every publication. So, I’m not just referring to material which is noticeably female-centric.

15) Now, change the television channels for 5 minutes or so. And the abusive atmosphere can quickly be felt. I could list every medium, such as daily Newspapers, radio programs, and what-have-you. It seems, everyone seeks ways to mistreat boys, whether through brute force or, by using indirect methods.

16)Now, with that considered, why do Women’s Groups build their entire case upon notions claiming that “women are victimized”? Has anyone considered THE OBVIOUS answer to that question? It’s a ‘battle cry’. This method allows them to walk-all-over-you. You might call it, the “Eye for an Eye” method. Because the careful use of propaganda now enables her to become the abuser. Strangely, just by claiming otherwise.

17) Also, it places me at the status of “common criminal”. Yet, nothing bothers a woman more than a reversal of stereotypes. So, if I list statistics which suggest that women are actually abusers, this idea would deeply hurt many women. SO, maybe, that’s exactly how I feel when their studies describe men as the abusers. Amazingly, very few people consider this obvious fact. Do you realize, how women react when circumstances are reversed? Simply visit any woman who compiles outlandish ‘rape’ statistics to her own liking. Then suggest that she’s overlooking the fact, that Feminists encouraged forced homosexuality. Their belief is simply that: every woman should be pressured into committing homosexual acts, with or without her permission. Suddenly, activists become quite unhappy with claims which depict women negatively.

18) The term “Abuse” is probably more widely spoken than ‘happy birthday’. Now, let’s ask ourselves why every extremist group focuses primarily upon this narrow issue. Please understand: Human beings view the world differently than any other species. We tend to stockpile issues which can then work greatly to our advantage. This explains why so many women nourish the issue of “violence against women”. Here’s an example to prove my point. Let’s suppose, a woman is yelling and screaming at me. If I choose to criticize her actions, she’ll quickly try to SMOTHER ME with statistics regarding “Domestic Violence”, “rape”, and what-have-you. Hey, that’s precisely how people gain the upper hand, using propaganda. She’s allowing herself to treat me like a ‘desert rat’.

19) An unusual example) She’s allowed to abuse men, because we somehow deserve it. I was conversing with a lady on a forum. But it soon developed into an argument. This is a rarity, since the man usually backs down.

But, here’s how it happened: I said that the media was unfair against men. And she was determined to prove otherwise. So, she then ‘hammered me’ with Femi-literature, which included dozens of meaningless statistics. In other words: a lot of people use this “stuff” in order to literally walk-all-over-me. In fact, this woman actually said that she could “Chew me up, spit me out, and send me to the cleaners”. WOW! It’s hard to believe, this was the same person who had just given statistics regarding ‘Domestic Violence’. But it stands to prove my point: People feel a total rush-of-power, whenever their backed by solid issues.

20) MEGA) Please remember: We tend to think differently than any other species. Very few animals in the wild would ever want to fall prey. Humans appear to be the only exception to that rule. In essence: she wants to be the victim, because it can be used as an ‘arguing device’. People tend to stack issues, until the opposition becomes utterly speechless. (Example: The infamous “Woman’s Suffrage” Issue). Hey, let’s face it: you wanna be the victim. People commonly use *dogma, *righteousness, and *logic as forms of empowerment. And, when you’re able to provide any surmountable evidence, this enables you to control the literary world. So, please keep these factors in mind, whenever discussing issues, such as, “Female oppression”, or, “Domestic violence”.

21) Reasonable stats are difficult to disprove. This explains why extremist groups no longer claim that “90% of women are beaten by ex-boyfriends”. A lower statistic, such as 35%, will always lead us to believe that it’s surely happening to someone else.

22) RECAP) Okay, talk is cheap. Everybody claims to be the victims of abuse. Men’s groups insist that “men are the victims”, and vice versa. So, who do you believe? Here’s the answer: simply turn on the T.V. for a few moments. And a negative energy against males will quickly emerge.

Now, visit a typical dating agency and read through the profiles. You’ll quickly find that, most ladies are rude, nasty, and blunt. Whereas, the men always remain on their best behavior. Now, you can also observe typical relations between spouses, and friends. And, it becomes quite clear: The man NEVER stands up to the woman. On average, men are totally reluctant to argue against her, regardless of the reason.

23) RECAP) And, besides all else, It’s simply against our social standards. Men are expected to be kind toward women. And, it’s totally impermissible for him to mistreat her, even in the slightest way.

Now, with all said, I can ask: why did you come here to this blog?

The reason is because; you were hoping to determine that “abuse” is a serious problem.

The next question is: WHY?

Please explain why it’s necessary to inflate these issues?

There’s a simple answer: Human Nature.

Everybody wants to be the righteous crusader for personal justice.

And ultimately:

Whoever dies the biggest victim, WINS.

And, unusual as it may seem…..

You wouldn’t want it any other way.

Here's the Follow-up to this article:
The Domestic Violence myth. (Article # 2): A Pictorial Review which challenges Conventional Belief
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